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Solo, Duo or Group Sex Magick Rituals.

Author: Anja Heij

Many sex magicians prefer to perform their rituals
in the form of auto-eroticism and/or having intercourse with a
partner. But there are more possibilities and variations. You
may wish to take a look at them and consider to implement them
in your sex magickal practice.



Solo sex magick


"Hey, don't knock masturbation. It's sex with
someone I love!"

Woody Allen



To many of us the word masturbation has a bad taste.
It is said to be sinful and make you deaf, lame and blind (?)
Let's be honest and admit that almost all human beings masturbate
since the discovery of their sexuality in childhood.
Masturbation is a very good way to overall self-acceptance and
respect for your body as an earthly home for your spirit. If you
practice physical self-love this way I guarantee you a much greater
feeling of satisfaction and calmness of mind then when you use
it as a quick way to get rid of tension.
The above mentioned quote of Woody Allen makes me smile, but it
contains truth: accepting and enjoying self-stimulation is making
love with your inner lover.

After this intro it won't surprise you that many sex magicians
advice to start practicing sex magick with masturbation. It's
simply the best way to learn to know your body, to explore your
individual reactions and learn how to prolong orgasm. Another
reason is that it makes you independent of a partner; it is a
powerful sex magick technique in itself. And this explains why
most sex magickal acts are auto-erotic.


The best known solo sex magick practice is one person
raising magical energy by self-stimulation.




Drawing of a masturbating woman, Gustav Klimt




Another possibility is visualizing a god or goddess
making love to you while you're masturbating. Gods and goddesses
personify important human characteristics and talents/qualities,
or aspects of life in their pure form. We can imagine yourself
in sexual union with a deity in case we wish to strengthen or
emphasize these qualities in ourselves.



  • You may need help for a specific goal, for instance
    from a goddess of love, a god of healing or a god specialized
    in divination. If this is the case, start the ritual, arouse yourself
    and invoke the chosen god/goddess. Visualize the deity as vivid
    as you can with all your senses! Keep on repeating the name of
    your deity; at the moment of orgasm you channel the energy into
    your goal (something related to the deity).



  • You may wish the god's help to improve certain qualities in
    yourself, let's say intuition. In this case your 'goal' is projected
    inside yourself: while astrally making love you absorb the divine
    energy which will help you manifest that same energy yourself.
    Build up as much energy as you can and climax.


Thank and release the deity before you end the ritual! Working
with a god/goddess can be intensely erotic. Deities are free from
negative sexual conditioning, they will let go, and they bring
along much energy.



Note: each deity has its own personality and they will bring
it with during their love play. Therefore know who you invite.

Working with deities is not something I would advice for beginning
sex magicians.




You can even go further by invoking a god/goddess into your own
body. Here you deliberately surrender your ego. You offer yourself
completely for a higher purpose. You can work this deep and intense
sex magick as described above. At the end thank and release the
deity!
Again: this is not for starting sex magicians. And never, never
invoke an entity lower than a god/goddess/archangel into your
body!





Jupiter seducing Olympia, painting by Guilio
Romano


A technique between solo and duo sex magick is this: one magician
fully concentrates on the magical goal, while a supportive partner
arouses him/her. After having explored auto-erotic sex magick
first, this is a good way to smoothly 'glide' into working with
a partner.



Sex magick with a partner


"Come forth, o children, under the stars,
and take your fill of love."

Aleister Crowley


In partner sex magick the energy circulates and
builds up between two people.
To produce great effect it is best if both partners are more or
less equally trained in sex magick, or truly willing to become
so and practice a lot.
Your partner should always know that you intent to do a sex magick
ritual! - and agree with it!
It is perfect to expand barriers in duo sex magick as long as
you both feel comfortable with it. If for any reason something
happens against your will immediately stop the ritual!



The commonly known technique of duo sex magick is
having intercourse, be it with a partner of the opposite sex or
of the same sex.
Several magicians advice the position woman-on-top for sex magick;
in this position the woman controls the depth and rhythm of penetration,
she can get clitoral stimulation, and most men need more time
to reach orgasm. All good reasons to use this position, but even
more important is your personal preference. And you might wish
to change positions as well; for this reason it is practical to
place your symbol/sigil on different places in the room - or draw
it with body paint on your partner's body!





Woman on top, Kama Sutra



Intercourse positions can be seen as asana's, yoga-positions,
each having a specific way of freeing and directing energies.
I came across some considerations on certain positions:



  • The famous missionary position (man-on-top): here the chakra's
    of the partners are placed opposite each other and partners
    can look into each others eyes; this enhances intimacy, contact,
    healing and energy. A good position for a man to reach orgasm.
    This position is advised if you're doing magick for a positive
    change in the man's life.


  • An interesting variation for sex magick: still man-on-top,
    but the woman holds her legs together after penetration and
    does not move; only the man is active giving her his energy,
    she holds all this sexual energy and directs it into the universe.
    I would name this a good position to do magick for a mutual
    goal - or for something the woman wishes to realize.

  • Woman-on-top (cowgirl or camel-position): this woman-active
    position is good to do magick for a goal the woman wishes to
    realize. The woman gets more stimulation and the man tends to
    ejaculate later.

  • Woman-on-top-reversed (with her face looking at her partner's
    feet): in this position there's no eye-contact, but it can be
    very stimulating for both partners. A good position to do magick
    for a friend of the woman (she receives much of his energy and
    can direct it into the universe).

  • Side-to-side-positions: both partners are equally active/receptive;
    their chakras are placed opposite each other and their eyes
    meet - what means a lot of contact and exchange of energies.
    Good for magick for a mutual goal.

  • Doggie-position (woman on her knees, or lying on her belly,
    and the man entering her from behind): many people like this
    position, because it brings up their wild, instinctive side.
    A highly energizing position, and good for sending energy to
    someone the man wants to send energy to.

  • Lotus-position (the man sits in lotus- or meditation-position
    with the woman on his lap, her legs around his waist and his
    arms on her shoulders): a highly meditational position with
    not much room to move but much contact between the chakra's,
    a very good position to use the 'secret language' consisting
    of male and female rhythmical internal movements with the pelvis
    muscles. A good position if your magick aims at spiritual development
    with slowly and steady built up energies, not really directed
    at a specific goal in the outside world. (for this aim also
    the side-by-side positions are very suitable).

  • Anal sex; this strongly brings up our wild and beastly side;
    while the man penetrates the woman he can stimulate her G-spot
    and/or clitoris. Good for highly energized sex magick.

    Warning: I hate warnings, but I have to let you know that
    everything that has been in the anus - be it a finger, sex-toy,
    penis, whatever - has to be cleaned thoroughly before you can
    insert it into the vagina! Because the anus contains much bacteria
    which in absolute no way should be transmitted to the vagina,
    being the inside of a woman's body, where they can cause very
    serious infections!





Lotus position, Kama Sutra


Another way of partner sex magick is using fellatio
and cunnilingus, better known as 'position 69', being mutual
oral sex. Visualize the energy reaching you through the mouth
of your partner, entering your body at the genitals, moving
up to your mouth and then leaving you to enter the genitals
or your partner; in this way you visualize an increasing circle
or energy.
Mutual oral sex magick is not suitable if you work with affirmations,
but good if you work with sigils and visualizations.


Partners can agree to invoke a god or goddess
into one of the partners, while the other partner keeps his
or her human form. This is a strong way of adoring the divine
core in your partner and it can be really special for both partners.
The partner who will take on the god-form allows his or her
mind to go blank, while the other partner invokes the god/goddess
into his or her (it may be clear that you have to agree on the
deity on beforehand). These rituals merely serve spiritual development;
you normally don't use them for a specific goal in the outside
world, but both enjoy adoring the divinity in a sexual way.


In The Great Rite a god/goddess is invoked into
both partners. This is for advanced sex magicians. The male
magician invokes the goddess into the female magician (having
her mind blank), and the female magician invokes the god into
her partner (having made his mind blank) - or the other way
around. Again this is sex magick for spiritual evolution, and
it can be very intense and unusual.


Distance sex magick. For instance you live in
London, your partner is on a business-trip in Tokyo and you
want to do magick together. Agree (on the phone or email) on
a goal, affirmation/visualization/sigil, time to start the ritual
and approximate length of it (mind the different time-zones).
Visualize a very big circle of protection, covering all the
way from London to Tokyo. Then start masturbating, strongly
visualizing your partner having sex with you, calling out his/her
name from time to time and complete the ritual.




Group sex magick rituals


"There is no act of passion that shall not be
a hymn in mine honour."

Aleister Crowley


A group sex magickal act is not a kinky party;
see it as a serious dedication of a number of people to a certain
goal. The fact that magick works synergistic is a very good
reason for a group to practice (sex) magick.
No one in the world can demand you to ever do a sex magickal
act against your will. But you may also consider that social
behavior has taught us to regard our bodies and sexual expressions
as being sinful - thus keeping us from showing our nudity and
sexuality in public. So the big question I'd like to ask, and
I don't know the answer, is: how natural is the aversion of
many people against group sex?





The Tiger, Kama Sutra



Group rituals are for advanced sex magicians.
Every participant must know how to raise, control and direct
energies. They must be determined to work magick with their
sexuality; if their aim is to sexually freak out with many partners
they will ruin the ritual.
In a group ritual it is absolutely not possible to cross barriers,
the group has to agree on possible borders on beforehand. If
someone namely does something another member of the group feels
uncomfortable with, the whole energy chain will be broken and
the ritual will be worthless.
Generally spoken group rituals can follow the techniques described
under solo and duo sex magick. They can be masturbatory, in
the form of having intercourse,or in the form of a large oral
circle.
Of course establishing an atmosphere of contact, trust and openness
is very important within a group ritual. A group meditation,
holding hands in a circle feeling the energy circulating, or
maybe chanting a mantra together are very good to start with.

A larger group will have a leader, a person not participating
in the ritual, but spiritually and magically guiding the group.
The leader will do the banishments and take care of the timing
and process of the ritual. This gives the group the opportunity
to be completely sexually involved, raising enormous energy.
The leader will from time to time ask the group to spread the
raised energy amongst the group and to focus it into the direction
of the chosen goal. The leader will also harmonize the energies
by directing them with his will, and raising them if needed,
from a place with much energy to a place within the group with
less energy. And at the peak of the sexual energy the leader
will ask the group to work towards orgasm and channel all their
energy into the magical goal.



I would like to end this piece with the suggestion
of a group ritual for the healing of mother earth. (Or a partner
ritual, or a solo ritual...)
Nowadays many groups meditate for the well being and healing
of our planet. By using sex magick we can actively send healing
to the planet who gave birth to all of us. The bible states
that our bodies are made from dust of the earth. With sex magick
we can return mother earth some of this gift.

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